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Veronica Varlow
  -  Uncategorized   -  Don’t Let The Bastards Get You Down: 4 Ways to Battle The Naysayers.

Oh, the bastards.

You know exactly who I’m talking about.

  • The ones who tell you should be more “realistic”, when you are finally brave enough to divulge your dream to them.
  • The ones who tell you to have a solid back-up plan because they have deemed your dream too far-fetched to achieve.
  • The ones who tell you that it’s a shame you didn’t start earlier or had more training or had more money or….. (on and on and on and on).

How the hell do we navigate these kind of outsider onslaughts when we are sometimes already battling our own inner demons that are echoing these same words?

1. Take It For What It’s Worth (and 99% of the time it’s worth ZERO).
Before you let what they are saying really affect you, ask yourself 1 question:
Does this person have the life you are dreaming of?
I think it’s safe to say that more than likely…the answer is no.
People are afraid to take chances – and they are probably telling you not to do it, because someone else told them not to do it and they believed it.
Break the cycle.
Don’t believe them.

2. How You Like Me Now?: Use Those Naysayers as Fuel To Show Them What You Can Really Do.
You ready for some true confession story time?
When I was 15, they had end-of-the-year awards for all the different clubs in school.
They made a new award to give me and it was for the biggest fuck up.
You can’t make this stuff up.
It was a joke, it was tongue-in-cheek, but you can imagine if adults around you, teachers that you looked up to – give this award to a 15 year old with not the best self esteem in the world, how it can be pretty damaging.
But that award fueled me to show them, it fueled me to push harder.
When people think you can’t do it,
go and show them what’s what.

3. Ditch the People Who Say You Can’t Do It, to Hang Out With The People Who ARE Doing It.
Here’s the deal:
The people who hang out with on a regular basis greatly affect the person you are.
They just do.
If you’re hanging around with people who keep telling you that you can’t do it, eventually you will start to believe them.
If you start hanging out with people who are DOING it, you will see a whole new way to go about your dreams and you will do it, too.

Case in Point:  Kim Boekbinder is one of my best friends in the world and just hanging out with her helped me see creative ways to help my dreams grow further and keep moving forward.
She’s a genius musician and a genius at coming up with great ideas.
She came up with The Infinite Minute Song Project, which is currently rocking the internet. And I mean, how could it not? When people go after their dreams with passion, anything is possible. Kim’s superhero power is making the impossible, possible.

4. And lastly…..

Let them.
Go on with yer bad self
and do it fabulously.
Something I’ve learned over the past few years?
What other people think about you is none of your business.
So just do YOU.
Fuck ’em.

And yes, that walking away feather fans strutter is me, and yes, I just randomly found this already made on the internet. Thank you, Internet.

How have you dealt with people telling you that your dream is impossible?
Share in the comments and let’s help each other.

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